This Messy, Gorgeous Love: The Dharma and Partnership
An 8-Week Class
with devon + nico hase
Thursdays—April 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, May 6, 13, 20, 2027
5pm to 6:30pm, pacific time
online via Zoom
You love each other. And still — the same arguments, the same misunderstandings, the same moments where closeness hardens into friction. What if none of that means something is wrong with you? What if it’s simply what happens when two whole people try to love each other?
Join Buddhist teachers devon and nico hase — authors of This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership — for an eight-week exploration of partnership as a path. Drawing on decades of practice and real relational life, they bring early Buddhist wisdom to the tender, unglamorous work of loving someone over time — delivered with warmth, honesty, and practical tools.
What You'll Learn
🪴 Weeks 1–2: Reorienting — Why relationship is inherently rough, and how accepting that truth softens the struggle. Relief often begins here.
🪴 Weeks 3–4: Building Capacity — Deep listening, emotional steadiness, compassion with boundaries, and the dance between closeness and autonomy.
🪴 Weeks 5–6: Working with Conflict — Your conflict style, how activation escalates, and the art of rupture and repair. Conflict becomes workable instead of frightening.
🪴 Weeks 7–8: Integration & Joy — Playfulness, ritual, appreciation, and practices that keep love alive amid impermanence.
What People Are Saying
“Honest, quirky, and compassionate — this is dharma for real relationships.”
—Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance
“devon and nico are deeply experienced practitioners, with a strong dedication to their own meditation journey. I highly recommend their teaching.”
—Joseph Goldstein, co-founder, Insight Meditation Society
What's Included
8 weekly 90-minute live sessions (all recorded)
Guided meditation, relational exercises, and weekly integration practices
Lifetime access to all session recordings
Course Details
Dates: Thursdays — April 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, May 6, 13, 20, 2027
Live Sessions: Thursdays, 5–6:30pm Pacific
Format: Online via Zoom (all sessions recorded)
Registration
This 8-week course is offered through Spirit Rock. Registration opens February 1, 2027.
devon hase is a Buddhist teacher and author who has practiced meditation since 2000, with over six years in silent retreat. A graduate of Spirit Rock’s Community Dharma Leaders program and IMS’s Teacher Training Program, she now co-coordinates Spirit Rock’s CDL program and teaches on retreat teams at IMS, Spirit Rock, and centers internationally. She co-authored How Not to Be a Hot Mess and This Messy, Gorgeous Love with her partner nico.
nico hase phd is a Buddhist teacher, psychologist, and author who focuses on bringing depth practice to daily life. He began Insight Meditation training in 1994, lived much of the first decade of the 21st century in a Zen monastery, and completed a Tibetan three-year retreat during the covid years. He serves as guiding teacher of the online dharma community Refuge of Belonging, where he teaches online and in-person in Joseph Goldstein's One Dharma lineage, and speaks with students in mentoring sessions. Look for his newest book, This Messy Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership, co-authored with his partner devon, in April 2026.
